Maybe there's one that more. If you find one, that'll do.
But us, old friend, what's to discuss, old friend?
Here's to us. Who's like us? Damned few.
- Sondheim, "Old Friends" from Merrily We Roll Along
And sometimes, the leaving feels like an ending, a withdrawal, a surrender or perhaps even an attack or sabbotage.
What makes the difference? I think it's whether the person is moving toward something new or only away from something old.
Those who are moving toward are focused on what's next, and it's easy to get behind their goals.
Those who are moving away from are usually angry or frustrated and focused on the negative and, it seems, they want their leaving to hurt those who stay.
As we move ourselves into and out of situations, it's worth asking: am I moving to something or away from something? Do I have hope and vision or merely a burning need to NOT be in the current environment?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting anyone stay in a toxic situation! But rather, the desire to get OUT is not enough - find the new goal so that you leap toward not just away.
Find a way to say "I'm starting" rather than "I'm quitting."